I don't trust women, how can I resolve this?

-Long story short I'm 19 and I was dating this girl on and off for 2 years.. I completely cut off contact with her 4 months ago since it was such a ****** up relationship and beyond repair.. I literally hate her guts. I don't feel nothing but hate for her.



Anyways to the point, she abused my trust constantly. Now I feel broken and a mess. I used to be such a witty, mellow, laid back guy, but now I just feel worthless and constantly angry and frustrated.



I don't trust women anymore.. It's like I've generalized all women because of her (which is stupid I know but I'm finding it hard to change the way I feel).. She's the only girl who I've PROPER dated.



Thing is, I'm starting to get lonely.. I only went back to her because I felt no one else would want me (I feel like such a fruit saying this). I don't go out anymore. I don't really speak to my friends much because of her. The only thing keeping me on the straight and narrow is my job at the moment. I'm so lonely.



So, here comes the question:



How do I regain trust for women?

How do I meet a nice woman?



Any advice from experience is welcome.



Thanks in advance.yo,



i had a similar experience. dated a girl and then she cheated with one of my friends. that was high school



no relationship since , im now 21 and in the same place as you



iv asked the same questions and every one of my friends is like you just know or you just go up and talk to them



all girls have there moments!!! no one is perfect



but for the first question.. what my father told me is "your young, have fun, and find what you want"

your 19 and you probably wont get married



there were probably things you liked about your last girl friend , but there were also those you didnt like. now you know that. dating is always full of ups and downs .. i was once told that dating is all about the break up, unless you get married. other than that its a learning process of finding that girl that fits you best .... through all those relationships you learn all the qualities that you would like a girl to have and those that you dont want them to have . when it comes time to really settle down you will know what type of girl to look for



to regain trust think of this

population male females

United States of America 314,658,780 155,244,097 159,414,鈥?br>




that was just one girl of 159,414,683



there are trust worthy ones out there, just keep looking. easier said than done.



important!! - girls talk, gossip,.. my high school girl friend cheated on me but refused to admit it even though there was proof and pics. but when i met a new girl who had never known my ex, she went ahead and added my ex on facebook than proceeded to chat..she told new girl i was super paraniod and all sorts of bull.. nothing eventually happened because i found out that new girl had talked and now was being weird . plus who wants to date a snoopy girl!



f your a good guy people will back you as a good guy. look for a girl who is secure they tend to be the trust worthy ones. that new girl was insecure , so was my ex

also look for excuses, those are always bad signs from the beginning



i started talking to this girl and we would always talk over the phone when she was hanging out with another guy. i didnt question , but when i asked what she was doing she said she was with so sand so. it was nerve racking but i thought if she tells me shes with a guy it must be fine . turns out it was her gay friend. and guess what trust was built because she noticed that i never seemed paranoid and that i trusted her ..



i dont know about you but i break the relationship once the trust is seriously broken once. why wast more of your time



now to meet a nice girl. just look for them in places that you enjoy being. It gives you something to relate withWell ... most guys become total sluts for about 10 years, banging everyone in sight and then settle down with a nice girl who is 7-8 years younger.
I dint have to read none of this... Just Relax... and think of who deserves your trust...
You need to let go of some of that pressure. You are way, way too young to be losing trust in women. If she was your first love, it's kind of natural you feel angry and frustrated, but hate is such a consuming emotion, it can eat you whole. Try some sports to let go of anger, something like boxing or target practice. Read good books. Go out with your friends, LIVE - you're only 19 and having that in mind your dating career is only starting! ;)