Why do I set myself up for let down when I like someone?

-I always do it. At the moment I am liking someone, but today at work I totally ignored him and he ignored me. He is a shy guy and I am shy too. But why do I happen to ruin things when they could be going so well. I really want to ask him out on a date but I find myself very nervous in front of him when there are other people. So naturally, at work I was very nervous with my co-workers and him being there. I am 18 years of age, if that matters.



Let me get to the point of my question though, I always tell myself it'll probably not work out and I prepare myself to get let down because I have been crushed so much in life. I don't want to be like this. Why do I do this?



--SammI find that if you keep your expectations low, you won't be as disappointed. That's how I see things anyways. Remember that there's always possibilities and that it's better to have tried than to not have tried at all. I have to say that not asking someone out could become one of the biggest regrets you have especially if you really like them, so try. Give it the benefit of the doubt. Even if things don't work out, there's many fish in the sea. Good luck. :DI don't know but I have the exact same problem I always tell myself it won't work or he doesn't really like me before things even begin :/
Insecurities + self preservation = self fulfilling prophesy + ruined relationships
i have the same problem.. i dont know what to do ! lol
maybe ur that mean shy girl that gets mad when someone hits on her
you just gotta take a risk and get hurt rather than protect yourself and never know true happiness